Boy’s week has started out rough.
Sunday night he cried at bedtime because he’s afraid of the dark despite the landing strip night lights available throughout the room.
Monday night he cried at bedtime because his tummy hurt and his feet hurt because he ate too much and he’s afraid of the dark. He may have eaten too much as we’re celebrating Big Sister’s birthday and cake and ice-cream were eaten after dinner, so I assumed maybe that was the issue.
Last night at bedtime (Tuesday, marking three nights in a row), he cried because his legs hurt and his arms hurt because he ate too much and he’s afraid of the dark. He continued to cry when I told him to go potty one last time and nobody would turn on the light for him.
“Come here,” I said.
He walked over with his head down and tears running down his face (I swear if I could make myself cry as an actor like he can, I’d probably be doing some serious paid gigs).
I reminded him he could turn the light on when he was three and now that he’s four, he ought to be able to turn the light on by himself.
While he was in the bathroom my wife told me he’d exited the bus that afternoon crying. Someone “grabbed and twisted” his ear. The bus driver knew the perpetrator and responded, and an apology was given from the offender, but I’m worried about the excessive crying and its root (not that little boys shouldn’t cry, but the more a little boy cries the bigger a target he paints on himself), and I’m worried about returning to bullying in preschool. Is the crying symptomatic of not wanting to go to bed because waking up represents going back to school where we’re not having as much fun as we thought we would?
Is it simply symptomatic of not wanting to go to bed and a fear of missing out on all the fun mom and dad might be having without him?
Is he just overtired as he falls asleep within seconds of opening the bedtime book?
So I have some reading to do:
For empathy: “Another Preschool Bully” is an Indianapolis’ mom’s reaction and reader commentary. And for possible exploration (I haven’t had a chance to explore the whole yet: the Pupil Transportation Safety Institute’s website looks like it has some resources.
Luckily, we are in a school now that is both accredited and within the public system, so the network of assistance we have available is vast as evidenced by the bus driver’s immediate handling of the situation. I just want to find out more.