Archive for February 6th, 2008

Dirty little secrets

February 6, 2008

Ashamedly, there are braver people out there than I.  In looking for others out there with concerns similar to mine, I came across what I understand to be Jeannine Garsee’s journal Elusive Sanity, where her topic Tuesday was “Bullying and a Bit of Self-Disclosure.”  She started out with a nice shout out to Judy Gregerson’s Bad Girls Club journal and shared the Bad Girls’ link to 

LoveOurChildren is a site to add to my own favorites, but I wanted to applaud Garsee for her self-disclosure.  It’s hard to admit to having been a bully, and I’ve not fully disclosed what I have done in my own past, though I have briefly alluded to my experience on the receiving end.  What’s up with that Mike?  Can’t handle the truth?  Honestly?  No.  It’s shameful.  It’s stupid.  I know what I did.  He knows what I did.  I consider him a friend now, and like Garsee, we’ve never talked about what happened. 

 The kicker?  I was cruel even after others had been cruel to me.  And while I worry about my son being a victim (and does ignoring the bully really work Mom and Dad?), I worry just as much about him not learning anything by being a victim and being just as big a jerk – if not bigger – to another kid just because he’s fat, wears glasses and has asthma.